Ainodmilvado says:
‘The problem IS that, more and more frequently, it IS done for the wrong reasons. ‘
Who died and left YOU to decide whats considered right or wrong?
Its a mitzvah for a man to divorce his wife if thats what she really wants. I know an unfortunate case where a man dragged his wife for 5 yrs just to torment her.
Whatever the case, I heard a shiur from a famed speaker who thought that infidelity is not a reason to break up a family! Acoording to her, anything else less than physical abuse was not grounds for divorce when you have kids.
Then there are ‘shono rishono’ cases where Rabonim unfortunately write very quickly.
Every Bais Din has there own way of handling a situation like this, but there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong reasons.