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hanib
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i kind of agree with yeshivabachur, but for a different reason. really, i see that you have 2 options: if you are certain about what you are looking for/need, you can wait just for that. if not going out bothers you and you’ll feel more like you’re doing something if also dating, can date people who don’t sound as perfect – also, never know, maybe you or the guy will know someone who is just right for the other person, if it doesn’t work out for you 2. i don’t think either option is right or wrong – depends on you. sometimes, it’s not so good to not being going out at all, if sincerely want to get married now. if not, and you don’t mind waiting, then just wait. really depends on you, and which way you can have more energy to be doing what should be doing now.

a lot of people made great points about not wasting this time. definitely do hishtadlus and daven, but also good time to work on yourself, attend shiurim, establish relationships with rebbetzins/mentors, etc. and have fun!