People tend not to want to reveal such details (loshon hara, rechilus, some similar reason), not realizing that it is a CRUCIAL piece of information that a prospective shidduch has every right to know. All the details do not have to be revealed, but some basic information should be, i.e. there was a problem regarding the support issue that had been promised; the girl turned out to be very self-centered; the boy was not being candid about his intentions regarding earning a living; one or the other turned out to have anger management problems or some other emotional disturbance, that had been kept hidden. You get the idea. Details come out when an actual dating relationship goes forward, if it seems shayach to do so after finding out the broader issues.
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