Spoiler a huge mazaltov to you! I cant help in your request, but want to give you moral support. I know someone in the same situation a while back and he was very careful to keep his family happy as much as possible, as you are obviously doing, even though they were very against what he was doing by turning frum. A few years down the line, his parents say openly that they get much more nachas from his frum, well behaved family and kids than from any of his other siblings!
mixed seating for singles increases the possibilities for shidduchim
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Charlie: Please research this. I find it difficult to believe any frum rav would say this as a general rule.