Reply To: men banned from girls graduations

o.k. let us try to help you understand what is going on, and yes i am a person involved. I chose to send my daughter to this school because after many discussions back and forth with various parents rabbonim and school hanhala i did pick this school out for the hashkofos they had.And yes this is an added on rule that was just started this year. My wife did go to a chassidishe b.y. in n.y. and there were men in the audience with long beards and peiyos. I myself was raised in a city definitly not like N.Y. but the small yeshiva and the dayschool ,even though mixed classes till i think 5th grade, had many black hat chaim berlin type and many other frum frum people. Now don’t be shocked by this but friends ate at friends houses,By that i mean family’s with a boy and girl the same ages. I even did science projects worked on reports and worked on color wars with OMG!!! Girls. Everyone in our community pretty much knew everyone else from the frie to the frum frum. we enjoyed each others chasunahs and cried at each others levayas. And yes we spoke to the girls in the lunchroom and in the halls, and mind you i was only there through 9th grade we also spoke to the girls in shul at the grocery store, etc. You want to know something most of the kids from those families have grown up to be nice frum parents of nice frum kids some in business some in chinuch, some in the states and some in eretz yisroe-l. Yes i grew up in a different time but you know something i think if we go back to those times, which we can possibly do with a little more caution and caring with our kids our otd problem might not go away but i bet it will be a little better. little side note I wear a bekishe as does my son and did my father z”tl with uphits and come from very chassidishe background.So please you people who think I might be some kind of masher for wanting to see my daughter get her diploma, and yes it is very important to me, look in the mirror you might be the ones who chas v’shalom might be causing the next kid to go otd.I know i won’t.ease up.