aries, Im a little wary of all this rethinking what to say and calling back, whether or not to say, whats for who to know and whats for who not to know, and relying on perceptions of people (perfectionist or not), because people get nervous and just drop the idea. Sounds to me like too much reliance on an individual’s tastes and opinions. We are all only Basar V’Dom. The True Judge is up there. I dont think thats the best Mehalech.
Im MUCH MUCH MUCH MORE wary about telling someone “the shidduch is not for her and I am not going to go into details”. Imaginations go wild, and thats fuel for Lashon Hara.