I think we should do away with the entire chassuna as we know it and spend the 20 (or 30, or more)thousand dollars on other things. We can avoid all of the ills that plague society at once. Those who feel it is a breach of tznius will be happy. Yeshiva administrators will be happy because they can now turn to the parents for all this money for schar limud. people wouldnt spend beyond their means thereby negating the need for the resulting takanos to save people from themselves. The only ones who wont be happy are the caterers and musicians. We can keep the caterers happy by giving them say 10% of what we would have spent on a chasuna and they in turn would use that money to prepare meals for those who unfortunately dont have a meal of their own. The musicians, hmmm, I’m stuck.
Is the discussion about walking down the aisle? Is it about dressing inappropriately (which is a discussion for the grocery store as much as it is a chasuna)? Is it about women walking down the aisle in front of men and vice versa?