Reply To: Time to Daven for Childless Couples?

kako: The people that I know who went through this seismic Nisayon were indeed exceptional people – quite elevated spiritually – not that I would wish for anyone to obtain spiritual refinement through such a Nisayon. I once “met” a Frum couple in the waiting area of a fertility expert (I was waiting there for a different medical need) and I felt that I was way “out of my league”, i.e. that this couple was spiritually miles ahead of me for having gone through such a Nisayon, to the degree that I felt myself almost in the presence of greatness. Chas V’Shalom we should doubt Hashem’s ways, but sometimes I can’t help ask “how is it that couples who are at best mediocre parents have children “1,2,3” (without any effort) – while couples who would make wonderful parents, i.e. who are shining examples of spirituality – have to struggle so much to have children.” I feel that maybe the prayer I wrote helped me express to HKB”H my sense of sadness and frustration that I feel for these couples. I hope that this does not make me Chas V’Shalom a doubter of Hashem’s wonderful Hashgacha Pratis.

Can you please expound on item # 1 that the Gadol told you – how did you internalize this thought into your own life and how do you feel that it led to your Yeshuah? Did you feel that Hashem was with you, helping you withstand and prevail over your suffering and that He did not let you feel alone?

The wonderful song “Besayata Dishmaya” by Yerachmiel Begun has lyrics “when we need Him to help us, He’ll always come through; never will we will be alone, with His help we can stand on our own”. When I hear this song, I think of couples going through this suffering and also of singles needing their Shidduch. I just would like to acquire some of their faith and Bitachon to get through.