aryehm: It says in the Igros Moshe, as well as a letter Reb Moshe signed that is published elsewhere, that the heter for cholov stam is only bshas hadchak. (For a non-baal nefesh; Reb Moshe wrote that a baal nefesh doesn’t use the heter even bshas hadchak.) “The Big One” posted the mekoros in the IM as well as the other letter, earlier in this thread. One talmid muvhak said Reb Moshe threw up when he was told what he ate was cholov stam; another claims he witnessed cholov stam in the fridge/fed to family members. Anecdotes of Reb Moshe (or anyone for that matter), however reliable or otherwise, don’t negate a psak din. You need a mekor.
gavra_at_work: I understand you are referring to people who are not yet on the observance level, that they need to work on other areas first e.g. getting rid of the shmutz tube, before working on other areas. I hear you. I don’t think anyone on the thread disagrees with that. We’re talking about people who mistakenly think that cholov stam is 100% okay anytime, including non-bshas hadchak, and are able to do the right thing.