Thanks for your comments! I am still waiting for some of those so called older boys to let me know how to contact them. Unfortunately the boys are not considered old even at 40 but the girls are labeled “older girl” by the age of 22, some at the fault of shadchanim who label them.
Here is another story. My neice was a great catch and still is great….B”H she is married. When in the parsha of shidduchim, my brother in law drove down to Lakewood on a snowy Sunday, when the roads were dangerous and with black ice. The appointment was to meet the famous Rabbi____( i don’t want to identify him) and i don’t know if he really has semicha,but the title Rabbi was added to his last name. He never even once picked up the phone to redt a shidduch. Then there is the famous Rabbi ______ from Boro Park, where the job as shadchan is handed down from generation to generation. Anyway, being his father davens in the same shul as us, we suggested my brother in law call the son. My brother in law calls him and he answers that he will call him back. (B”H my neice is married and has a beautiful family.)
Guess what, last week , after 5 years Rabbi Boro Park shadchan calls and asks to speak to Rabbi____, my brother in law. Yes, they have a son learning in Eretz Yisroel. No, my brother in law will not call him back. If this shadchan manages to get him, he will get a dvar torah with halachic backing(something my brother in law is known to be an expert in) to show and how wrong he and others(shadchonim) are in their dealings with great girls and how they make nothing of them.
An old friend of mine told me 10 years ago, “today even a half normal boy can luck it out”!