real-brisker, I always wonder what “good” a black hat does.
It’s about association.
bochur, I think its important to sit down with your father and talk to him about why you want to wear one and why he wants you not to. Does he not like “uniforms”? Does he think its a waste of money? Does he think its just about the exterior?
Its important to have open communication no matter what the outcome is.
Agreed.