Reply To: why is it fair for a younger daughter to have to wait for the older daughter?

You can’t blame the older sister for not wanting her younger sister to get married before her. It has nothing to do with jealousy. The reality is that if the younger sister goes first, it will hurt the shidduchim of the older one. People will assume something is wrong with her, even if nothing is. After all, why else would they let the younger one go first. Also, it hurts to hear every single person say IY”H by you. People will look at her and say “nebach, she needs a shidduch”. Waiting a year won’t hurt anybody. Why assume that the younger one will “miss” her bashert at 18 years old? There does come a time however when even if it will hurt the older one, she may have to just be skipped, and this has to be discussed with a Rav.