chalilavchas – Thank you. It sounds like you’re the parent, maybe you can have a sibling or s/o else your child is close to -to try somehow to get him/her to see s/o!
“Another very painful thing about this is being judged and nitpicked by frum people, who analyze how the parents are to blame (until it happens to them).”
Ignore them -they will have to give a Din v’cheshbon on all their talk! I’ve learned to ignore the world. In my situation, it was my own family (not immediate) who caused the whole situation which I have now.