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So instead, the boys are in a no-win situation. Either they say no to the girls in advance, thus eliminating the pain of rejection but opening themselves up to being called “unreasonably picky” by shadchanim who just “know”, despite having never met either party, that “it’s bashert, and you’re throwing your life away by not picking up on it!”; or, they finally give in, say yes to the girl, have an absolutely miserable time on the date that they never wanted to be on in the first place, and are then labeled “well I won’t call you off the derech, wink wink”.