1dayatatime — lack of menschlechkeit in a Jewish person, male OR female, IS a horror. It has nothing to do with wanting perfection, and everything to do with wanting a minimum standard of respect and courtesy to be shown. What is so difficult about this concept that some of you cannot appreciate it? I never had a bad date EXCEPT when the guys were not menschlech. B”H I can count those on the fingers of one hand. Most of my dates, even though the guys were not for me, nor I for them, were decent and nice people. maybe three or four times I went out with guys who were better illustrations of Cro-Magnon Man. They had all the manners of a bull in a china shop, and the sensitivity of a rock.
While Yeshivas are busy teaching marriage-age bochurim about the Hilchos Ishus, they should likewise be teaching them about common courtesy, especially in a public place. If the Rebbie does not feel comfortable or qualified to teach such niceties as holding a door open for a young lady, asking her what she would like to order if they are going out to dinner, or walking her to her door (something which should be self-explanatory to an intelligent person), then they should find someone who CAN teach it, and then do so.