Sac and Ofcourse. How much checking do you expect a 22 year old guy, 500 miles from home, frustrated due to a canceled flight (and a shidduch that didnt work out after a number of dates with a different girl – is why I was in that city to begin with), who is being told of a “wonderful girl” from a “wonderful family” by a woman he met once before in his life (the previous day) but his hostess says she knows, all in the 4 hours before the date would have happened? Who do you expect I would have asked for information about this family? My hostess told me she barely knows the family who lives on the other side of town and the mother in law of a friend from yeshiva “didnt know the girl, but the parents are wonderful people”. Armed with all that info, and a quick call to my Rosh Yeshiva who said “do you have anything better to do tonight?” I agreed to go out. Do you think I should have asked “what grade is she in”? Would anyone in shidduchim? Do you feel that people in shidduchim have a right to assume certain things about people, say for example, they are out of high school?
Like I wrote earlier, it was a bad date, my worst ever. Take it however you want. 19 years later, I think it is humorous in a weird way, 19 years ago, I felt used.