I think a lot has to do with (going OTD) fitting into social norms that really have no basis in halcaha. Trying to make children fit into certain molds can be detrimental for some…
There also has to be more kosher ways teens can enjoy themselves away from school…setting up sports leagues for kids would probably be a good thing…there is nothing wrong with getting kids involved in sports. In NJ there are several Jewish baseball leagues….I don’t know of any in Lakewood boro park etc. but I could be wrong….
Kids need an outlet, better to have a kosher supervised one then letting it up to the teems themselves….