In the Book by the Iranian woman
She gave an example of a Chassidic boy who did not want to wear a har. His father forced him to wear a hat and it became a struggle.
I suppose many called him “Off the Dereach” ,
Of course it became a self-fufilling prophecy and eventually the boy did go off the dereach.
But the Author also gave her own story, She was all gung ho about frumkite, she then went to Israel for a year in seminary and she was caught hanging with a bunch of friends , including a boy. Her rosh yeshiva ignored her the rest of the year and she was turned off. The rosh yeshiva of the seminary bascially threw her out because she was caught hanging with boys on Ben Yehuda St.
Teens need a little space, You need to know how much to give them, but some space is likely. You catch alot more flies with Honey than vinegar