Ofcourse -The abuse, of course! When people say hypocrisy, I think that it’s not just the hypocrisy, but how it affects the teen. In other words -abuse. Kids see plenty of hypocrisy in the Goyish world, eg. white collar crimes can get you life imprisonment, but if you kill someone -you can sometimes get away with only a few years. But they aren’t turned off by it.
I’ll give an example and it’s Not based on any real event: A yeshiva has a Rebbe who abuses kids. The yeshiva gets complaints, but tends to ignore them. The same yeshiva finds out that a kid watches movies at home and throws the kid out. Not only will the kid thrown out be disillusioned, but so will all his peers. It’s not per se that the problem comes from hypocrisy, but such a kind of hypocrisy is abuse. The kids realize they are less of a person than this Rebbe. They are treated differently. So people are saying hypocrisy is the main reason, but it’s not really the hypocrisy, it’s how they are treated differently than others (abuse). If a person thinks into what I’m saying, they will realize that I have a point! Abuse has many forms and it can come from the home or the school! I think everyone knows all the different forms!