Whoa, take it easy guys. No one is painting mothers carte blanche.
I just made a statement about a hypothetical situation that can and does happen sometimes.
WHich by the way is a very usful tactic in getting rid of the EX, for some. And is very common in America. And which goes undetected by Courts and the professionals involved, for the most part, but the damage is deep. And which does exist. Burying your head under the sand about it will not change it.