arwsf
I’m curious if you see a correlation between your daughter telling you what you should have done when she was younger & you feeling your mother made a poor choice when you were younger
This forum is anonymous & your mother is unknown here, but it is quite feasible for an alcoholic’s wife to post here:
My daughter thinks I made a mistake giving up a life with an alcoholic who abuses me & the family physically, emotionally, & I am petrified of his alcoholic rages which he conveniently forgets the next day. My body was perpetually bruised & I was repeatedly violated, as were some others.
I was petrified taking the final step of dissolving the marriage, no money, no roof over my head, without enough emotional or financial support.
I felt that this was the only recourse I had as the father for YEARS refused treatment. I had become the unhealthy enabler & codependent.
I & my family would have been destroyed if we had stayed a a unit, yet my daughter criticizes my choice & believes it’s because I didn’t have the strength of character. Nor the patience.
Could you believe it?