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Could this behavior perhaps be her struggle with identity & separation so typical of teenagers (& beyond)?
If so, better that she go through it now than later years down the road. Most parents of kids this age describe similar behavior (as well as the moms pulling their hair out, so to speak).
You sound like a very dedicated mom and as such, your daughter will come to appreciate you once again, in due time.
Gam ze yaavor be”H.
To come full circle, it might be a good idea to use this critical time to appreciate your own mother & her struggles. She probably did the best she could.
Wishing you much hatzlacha & patience