” It’s tough! “
Nu, so don’t just stand there, take the steps towards making your reality something you are happy about.
No matter what your “brand” you can do your homework and find the person that is right for you. Once you know what you want, setting the ball in motion is easy. Don’t be held hostage by the “system”. If your parents / friends / realtives are stalled, talk to the Rov / Rebbetizn in your life and tell them what you seek. You’d be surprised at what comes across their desk.
And if that does not yield results, talk to another Rov / Rebbetizn that is from a similar shul / background. Networking is the key to success.
Oh, and lest you think I forgot professional shadchanim, I did not. The omission was intentional.
You’ve got more going for you than they can appreicate. Don’t settle for less.