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dunno – i know it’s very hard, and until you’re married everyone will tell you why you’re not married.
i think the 2 hardest parts of being single is
1) not knowing when this nisayon will end
2) feeling like people think that there is something wrong with you or that your thoughts are not as valuable as a married person’s are.
but, truly, you can do some amazing things while you’re single – if you can channel your energy, you can really develop yourself now, make great contacts, and do a lot of chessed.
Good luck in using this time for good things. It’s a challenge, but if Hashem put you in it, it means that you can do it.
Now, is a great opportunity to get to know yourself and your strengths well.
My sister who got married at 19, and who is now married for many years feels like she didn’t have the chance that others who married later did to develop herself spiritually and emotionally. it can be done, but it’s harder to do in marriage in some ways.