“For the past year I’ve been dealing with my own difficult situation. I don’t know anyone frum in this situation so I felt very isolated and could not find a frum mentor or similar support.”
My experience is that there is always someone else out there with a similar although non-identical situation. Seek and ye shall find. Yagata umatzata taamin.
“I’ve always found from experience that a good cry and a bowl of ice cream (can be substituted for any other fattening or caffeinated treat) can do a world of good!”
Using fattening and unhealthy foods as an anesthetic is highly not recommended. Try a different method that’s beneficial in both the short and long term.