It may not be “rampant”, but I think it’s safe to say that almost everyone knows at least one person that was affected by abuse in some way. I stayed away from this topic until now because I was, and still am, greatly affected by abuse, and I didn’t want to get involved. But without getting into details, I strongly agree that it is unfortunately covered up and ends up negatively impacting many more people than it should have. We must stop protecting, and open our eyes to the damage it causes, however ugly and terrible the truth might look, and prevent possible future calamities.
Happiest, may G-d give you the strength to deal with everything you are going through in a positive way. You seem to be a happy person in general, and that is incredible due to what you’ve dealt with. I give you all the respect in the world.