There are also chumros — they are for those who want to be ba’alei madreiga.
The thing is that in Eretz Yisroel, the Chareidim are into pushing chumros on everyone. In England, it is also so when it comes to tsnius.
Pushing chumros onto everyone?
Did someone come to your house and tell you that your women must dress a certain way or suffer consequences?
Or do you mean that the guilt you feel from not wanting to be a ba’al madreigah compels you to dress in a certain level of tznius that you feel is above you?
Perhaps it shows just how rabbonim kowtow to every “askan”, dont teach halacha, teach what we want to be the standard as halacha.
So what you are saying is, kavod haTorah doesn’t apply to you because you believe that the Rabbonim are not da’as Torah, they are fools that are swayed by every “askan” with an agenda.
Maybe this is a sign that you should stop taking your hashkafa from Catholic co-workers.