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We probably agree on many more things, if you would have had the decency to read my posts from beginning to end instead of just shouting back “You’re totally ridiculous” the second you saw something that challenged your position, you would have seen this.
As far as what the compensation should be for a shadchan, I never thought about this seriously. My first thought would be to have it the way it is where I work- no compensation until after the contracts are signed and the account is opened. True, this may mean that through no fault of the agent the client backed out at the last second, but that’s business.
Also, if the account is closed within a year the agent has to return the comission. If this happens too many times the agent gets audited to see what is going on. (In extreme cases agents have been let go, lost their license or even arrested when illegal activities were uncovered.)
At times, especially when one of the two parties flies in for a date, the two of them could rack up 3 dates without getting serious. If the shadchan knows that after one more date he/ she will receive compensation regardless of the outcome… I’ll let you figure out on your own what will happen.