IUseBrains-
Let Me explain, If u are a real freind u should be heavily involoved in Shidduchim, if not, then let the Shadcahnim run the show!!!!
Hold on a second there- before giving shadchanim the green light to run the show, let’s set down a list of rules for them to follow:
(This is in now way an all inclusive list, it is strictly my opinion and copied from a different thread.)
1. Don’t lie- If someone asks a question it usually means that it’s important to them. It’s not up to you to decide what’s important or not.
2. Don’t stalk- I found it creepy when Shadchannim found out who I previously dated and who I was currently dating. It’s none of your business and if you “happened” to have found out somehow you are not allowed to share this information!
3. Don’t give my name out without my permission- If I never asked you to put my name on your list but you got it from my yeshiva please ask me before distributing it. It’s not fair to my friends, neighbors, Rabbeim and relatives to get numerous calls about me when I can’t possibly date all of them anyway. It’s also not fair to me to get a reputation as a guy who says “no” to everyone.
4. Don’t use excessive pressure- If it’s a “no” then it’s “no”, if I need more information then I’ll let you know.
It’s a shame these even have to be mentioned, it’s all common sense to me.