This isn’t at all hypocritical. Imagine a religion in which wives were expected to set fire to themselves at their husband’s funeral. I’d say that that religion subjugates women. If it was then explained that this was not a problem, since people of that faith also refuse to dispose of their dead so as to not require the wives to kill themselves, that wouldn’t make me think much more highly of that faith.
If you’re starting from the premise that there is nothing sacred about requiring a Get, and, by definition, all non-Jews do, the concept of Agunah will seem strange and beating people up to avoid it, will not seem like it’s dealing with the actual problem.