July 19, 2011 12:34 am at 12:34 am #598063
When there are aguna’s, they write stories about how the evil ultra-orthodox want to subjugate women.
Now, a couple in NJ was arrested by the FBI for beating up a guy who wouldn’t give a ??, and who ran away from the rabbanut to america. So now they say the Ultra-orthodox are crazy fanatics who run around beating people.July 19, 2011 12:52 am at 12:52 am #787551
As Jews, no matter what we do, we will always be in the spotlight.July 19, 2011 2:02 am at 2:02 am #787553
Wolf: You wouldn’t beat a guy who was withholding a get? I would. It’s even the halacha.July 19, 2011 2:38 am at 2:38 am #787559shlishiMember
pba: Only if he is halachicly required to provide it. That isn’t necessarily the case.July 19, 2011 2:52 am at 2:52 am #787560☕️coffee addictParticipant
welcome to galus, you expect to winJuly 19, 2011 3:42 am at 3:42 am #787561ItcheSrulikMember
Clearly, the solution is not to get caught. 🙂July 19, 2011 3:47 am at 3:47 am #787562Derech HaMelechMember
I’m honestly getting scared. Look how many bad things happened to us in the past few months: gedolim dying, murder, assault in the news. All before shiva asar b’Tamuz
I’m scared for these next three weeks.July 19, 2011 7:48 am at 7:48 am #787563whatrutalkingabtMember
“I’m honestly getting scared.”
I think thats the point…We are supposed to be terrified enough to do teshuva since it obviously wasnt happening without all the scary stuff…July 19, 2011 10:49 am at 10:49 am #787564mikehall12382Member
Not giving a get is just evil…you gotta do what you gotta do, but I think beating someone up is not the answer… Running their livelihood is a better option 😉July 19, 2011 1:26 pm at 1:26 pm #787565gavra_at_workParticipant
So now they say the Ultra-orthodox are crazy fanatics who run around beating people.
What, you want them to lie?July 19, 2011 1:53 pm at 1:53 pm #787566Blintz182Participant
It probably wouldn’t have been all over the news if they hadn’t held the guy hostage and threatened to bury him alive. Kidnapping is a very attention-grabbing act. Well…ANY kind of crime is an attention-grabbing act when performed by the frum community.July 19, 2011 2:04 pm at 2:04 pm #787567mosheemes2Member
This isn’t at all hypocritical. Imagine a religion in which wives were expected to set fire to themselves at their husband’s funeral. I’d say that that religion subjugates women. If it was then explained that this was not a problem, since people of that faith also refuse to dispose of their dead so as to not require the wives to kill themselves, that wouldn’t make me think much more highly of that faith.
If you’re starting from the premise that there is nothing sacred about requiring a Get, and, by definition, all non-Jews do, the concept of Agunah will seem strange and beating people up to avoid it, will not seem like it’s dealing with the actual problem.July 19, 2011 2:10 pm at 2:10 pm #787568
“Only if he is halachicly required to provide it. That isn’t necessarily the case.”
My understanding in this particular case is that a beit din in Israel had ordered him to give a get and that he had fled the country in order to avoid being sent to prison.July 19, 2011 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #787569
Wolf: You wouldn’t beat a guy who was withholding a get? I would. It’s even the halacha.
No, I would not beat someone for withholding a get.
The WolfJuly 19, 2011 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm #787570adorableParticipant
I dont think I would beat them but I just cannot fathom why someone would want to do something like that. Its beyond me…..just give her the dumb get and thats itJuly 19, 2011 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #787571apushatayidParticipant
You dont beat them, because in america the law is you dont kidnap, beat and threaten to kill people, no matter how noble the cause. The law doesnt like vigilante justice. With that said, I think we should be even more concerned with the FBIs insistence at the hearing in Trenton yesterday the the couple be forced to wear monitoring bracelets because their ties to Israel make them a risk to flee, the judge didnt buy that argument though (heard from someone who was in Trenton yesterday).July 19, 2011 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #787572EnglishmanMember
Perhaps he wants to continue the marriage. Not in all situation is she entitled to a divorce. Unless there are the requisite halachic justifications to insist on a get and the beis din orders him to give one, she would be deemed a moredes if she unjustifiably demands one.July 19, 2011 8:50 pm at 8:50 pm #787573
Whether she “deserves” a get or not is irrelevant to this case. Even if it was 1000% warranted, it’s still no excuse to kidnap and beat people.
The WolfJuly 19, 2011 11:57 pm at 11:57 pm #787575HealthParticipant
“Now, a couple in NJ was arrested by the FBI for beating up a guy who wouldn’t give a ??, and who ran away from the rabbanut to america. So now they say the Ultra-orthodox are crazy fanatics who run around beating people.”
I know the guy -he lives near me. I was his classmate and I still can’t figure out why he did it, even for money. There’s got to be more to the story.July 20, 2011 12:17 am at 12:17 am #787576
“the couple be forced to wear monitoring bracelets because their ties to Israel make them a risk to flee”
The fact that Israel refuses to extradite some fugitives to the US or to put them on trial in Israel gives the idea that Jews are flight risks credibility. Mondrowitz has been living freely in Israel for 25 years!July 20, 2011 12:20 am at 12:20 am #787577
“Unless there are the requisite halachic justifications to insist on a get and the beis din orders him to give one”
We have to accept rulings of beit din. In this case, the published reports are that it ruled that she was entitled to a get and he was ordered to give her one. In such cases, an otherwise coerced get is not considered to be coerced and she would truly be free to remarry after the get is given.July 20, 2011 12:28 am at 12:28 am #787578
No, I would not beat someone for withholding a get.
Do you care about the woman he is torturing? What if it was your sister?
Would you beat a guy up to prevent him from killing someone? How about to prevent him from burning down someone’s business? How about to prevent him from molesting a child?July 20, 2011 12:32 am at 12:32 am #787579Pac-ManMember
The guy that was beaten up by the thug and his wife has the beis din supporting his position, including Maran Hagoen HaRav Shmuel Kaminetzky shlit”a.July 20, 2011 1:27 am at 1:27 am #787580
violence and criminal behavior is always wrong no matter the reason, should he give his wife a get probably but you should not kidnap and threaten someone.July 20, 2011 1:32 am at 1:32 am #787581ShrekMember
why can’t people just behave themselves?July 20, 2011 2:26 am at 2:26 am #787582
Do you care about the woman he is torturing?
Why? Does “not willing to beat him up” = “not caring?”
What if it was your sister?
Which part of “I would not beat someone up” did you fail to understand?
Would you beat a guy up to prevent him from killing someone? How about to prevent him from burning down someone’s business? How about to prevent him from molesting a child?
Don’t be silly. Direct threats to life and limb are not the same as refusing to give a get. Much as I abhor people who withhold a get from their wives either to gain leverage or for petty revenge, it’s just not comparable to the cases you’re presenting.
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 3:32 am at 3:32 am #787583
Don’t be silly. Direct threats to life and limb are not the same as refusing to give a get.
Oh? Emotional pain is not as bad as physical pain?July 20, 2011 4:01 am at 4:01 am #787585
Oh? Emotional pain is not as bad as physical pain?
It’s not the same, and you know it.
And even if it is, again, I ask, is kidnapping and beating someone up the only way to show that you care. Does my refusal to beat someone up mean that I don’t care?
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 4:13 am at 4:13 am #787586
is kidnapping and beating someone up the only way to show that you care.
He didn’t do this because he cared, he did this to help. So yes, if you can help someone and you don’t, it shows you don’t care. Caring is not just what you feel, it’s also what you do to carry out your feelings.July 20, 2011 4:17 am at 4:17 am #787587
He didn’t do this because he cared
I was responding to your question of “do you care about the woman…?”
So yes, if you can help someone and you don’t, it shows you don’t care
Is kidnapping someone and beating them up the only way to help?
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 4:21 am at 4:21 am #787588
Ok. We don’t need to snipe at each other.
We both know that the aguna problem is extremely tragic, and there is really no solution besides actually coercing the guy. And that is precisely what was happening here.
If you think you could not actually beat someone, I understand that. But let’s agree that the gemara says to beat him, and that it’s basically the right thing to do.July 20, 2011 4:21 am at 4:21 am #787589
Wolf, just wondering, not saying that beating up is the best option, but what would you have done to help this women who deserved a get?July 20, 2011 4:28 am at 4:28 am #787590
Wolf, just wondering, not saying that beating up is the best option, but what would you have done to help this women who deserved a get?
Considering the fact that I know nothing of the particulars of the case, I can’t honestly answer that question. But I categorically state that I would not have kidnapped and beat the person up. Yes, my response would even be the same if, God forbid, it was someone from my family.
If you think you could not actually beat someone, I understand that. But let’s agree that the gemara says to beat him, and that it’s basically the right thing to do.
No, I will NOT agree that beating him is the right thing to do. And if that makes me a sinner worthy of being beaten up myself, then so be it.
(PS – does the gemara also say you should extort $100,000 from his father too?)July 20, 2011 4:34 am at 4:34 am #787591
Wolf, that still is not resolving the issue. For agunas it’s a lose-lose situation unless there is some rabanical intervention. And it seems you can’t come up with a more peaceful alternative solution.July 20, 2011 4:36 am at 4:36 am #787592
So just explain: If it was really the only way to get her out, you wouldn’t be ok with me using force?
Or do you think there really is another way?July 20, 2011 4:39 am at 4:39 am #787593
Or do you think there really is another way?
Again, I don’t know that it was the only way in this case — or if it’s possible that kidnapping and beating someone is ever the “only way.” In the end, it doesn’t matter — I would still not beat someone up. Period.
And you didn’t address my other point. Does the Gemara also authorize calling up the recalcitrant husband’s father and extorting $100,000?
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 4:42 am at 4:42 am #787594Pac-ManMember
No it doesn’t. And Rav Shmuel Kaminetzky signed a letter stating the husband is 100% correct in this case.July 20, 2011 4:47 am at 4:47 am #787595OfcourseMember
Is anyone here of the opinion that any Gedolim were behind the kidnapping/beating of the recalcitrant husband? I cant believe that any would be. That would give frum Jews a black eye in the press, a huge Chilul Hashem.July 20, 2011 4:51 am at 4:51 am #787596
I don’t know anything about this particular case. I’m talking about a case where he really is a rasha and extorting her for spite.
As far as the couple extorting him, again I don’t know anything about this case.
Answer me this: Are you saying you yourself could never bring yourself to beat someone, or do you think it is wrong if anyone does it? How about if beis din does it?July 20, 2011 4:54 am at 4:54 am #787597
two wrongs dont make a right what the husband is doing is terrible but there is never ever a reason to get violent with another human being just because you may disagree or even despise them. this is vigilantism and it is unacceptable.July 20, 2011 4:56 am at 4:56 am #787598
this is vigilantism and it is unacceptable.
Is vigilantism never acceptable? How about in the examples I listed above? How about if someone is preventing a person from ever getting married for spite, and there is no other recourse?July 20, 2011 4:59 am at 4:59 am #787599
Answer me this: Are you saying you yourself could never bring yourself to beat someone, or do you think it is wrong if anyone does it?
How about if beis din does it?
I don’t believe that any bais din today is empowered to authorize kidnapping and beating. Based on that premise, the answer is that it is wrong if a bais din authorizes it too.
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 4:59 am at 4:59 am #787600
violence and criminal activity begets more violence and criminal activity, no what he is doing is reprehensible but you should not sink to his level.July 20, 2011 5:03 am at 5:03 am #787601
If your answer is that beis din is not authorized today, then you are saying it is the right thing, we are just not authorized.
As it happens, I think beis din is authorized to do that today.July 20, 2011 5:07 am at 5:07 am #787602
As it happens, I think beis din is authorized to do that today.
On what grounds do you make that statement? On what grounds do you know that a Bais Din today is allowed to make a formal p’sak din that one should be kidnapped and beaten?
The WolfJuly 20, 2011 5:11 am at 5:11 am #787603
Choshen Mishpat Siman 2July 20, 2011 6:15 am at 6:15 am #787604
“I think beis din is authorized to do that today.”
That is a good way to get more Jews learning full time, supported by government tax money — in federal prisons!July 20, 2011 10:04 am at 10:04 am #787605apushatayidParticipant
Charlie. it is true there is no extradition treaty. In this particular case, the defendent was to israel and back at least 5 times since being served. If he wanted to run away and not come back, he would have done that already. The defendents voluntarily surrendered to the FBI and appeared in court willingly. Despite that, the prosecutor still insisted they were a flight risk because of their “ties to israel”. The judge thankfully saw through that and didn’t agree. He did place limited restrictions on their movement though. They can’t leave the state without prior notification.July 20, 2011 1:16 pm at 1:16 pm #787606RSRHMember
Popa, you bring up siman 2 (I LOVE siman 2). Doing so raises a problem of jurisdiction. While a beis din in Israel may be able to exercise power under siman 2; and its legitimate authority over Israelis might even allow private Israelis to beat a m’sarev get after a beis din rules he must give one, its not clear why an Israeli beis din’s ruling should have any power in the U.S. A beis din has to have jurisdiction and power over parties and geographical locations. In the absence of true smichah, this can only be accomplished by kabbalah by individual litigants for a particular case, or by a beis din’s being generally appointed by a kehillah to exercise judicial authority over that population and locale. Undoubtedly, an Israeli rabanut beis din has this kind of authority – in its area of jurisdiction. But an Israeli beis din’s rulings would seem to not have binding authority in the U.S. unless confirmed by a beis din of competent jurisdiction (and according to R. Moshe Feinstien – I will try to find the exact citation – virtually no U.S. beis din has general jurisdiction over a given population or locale, and jurisdiction depends on parties accepting a particular beis din to adjudicate their particular case).July 20, 2011 5:47 pm at 5:47 pm #787607HealthParticipant
The problem with this case and a lot of cases – that there are two sides. He also had a Bais Din that sided with him. The reason a lot of people withold the Get is because they feel that they weren’t treated fairly in the Bais Din or Court of law. Sometimes this isn’t true and the husband just wants to be mean. But unfortunately, a lot of times it is. The Bottey Dinnim and Courts aren’t always where Justice takes place. To say that nowadays the Bottey Dinim have the right to enforce their Psakim with violence, is showing that you are extremely ignorant of what happens in our “Justice” systems nowadays.
The way it appears to me is that the father of the wife used the Bais Din in EY to throw the guy under the bus. He then hired henchmen to do his dirty work. I believe that this is a good possibility, even though of course I can’t know 100%. But for s/o to claim that anyone can take the law into their own hands without even taking into consideration of this possibility is putting their heads in the sand!
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