Fix it up-
“And cmon, hus goiing to sit there thinking that the other wife is more attractive or wtvr?”
“But I dunno, i think that husband and wife should trust each other enough to know that they arent going to be “looking” and “comparing”
I think you’re being a little naive. Sit down and ask your husband for a little chat to explain to you how Hashem created man. Its not a matter of trust – its automatic and its a natural behavior that man has to fight
Wolf-
“Baloney. I have never cheated, or wished I could cheat, with any guest who has been to my house.”
Im sure you havent but I presume (based on your posts) that you did not grow up in an insular little box the way many yeshivish people nowadays do. Its very different for someone who grew up open minded in a setting where its accepted to speak with people of the opposite gender, than it is for a couple who never dealt with anyone from the opposite gender besides their spouse. For them it is much more dangerous
(This was not meant as an insult or to say you sinned by growing up like that- quite the contrary- I’m explaining why for you it may be ok but for others it may not be. You have to know who you are and who you are hosting)
Another point is that young couples married for a year or two should be focusing on their own relationship – not hosting another couple that may cause jealousy and discontentment, when their relationship is not yet solid. For older couples who are already off the rocks it isnt as bad, especially if there are a bunch of children joining the meal as well.
For those touting the hachnosas orchim shpiel- there are plenty of other guests that you can have over- bochurim from a yeshiva, siblings, your grandparents, older lonely people…there is plenty of opportunity to do hachnosas orchim.