About the website I mentioned, you can tell her that anonymously talking to other women who have had the same experience can be an invaluable source of support. First really be there for her and with her, though, or sh’ll feel like you’re just redirecting the grief and need for support.
Adorable, I had my first miscarriage (I had already gone for several sonograms) days before my sister gave birth. That was a really painful/mixed feeling hospital visit. I did not tell my sister until years later that I had any and she still doesn’t know I had looked forward to having a child close to the age of hers. Even seeing babies born around the same time as a woman was supposed to give birth can be a painful reminder for years to come. Time does heal wounds, though. The hardest time is when it first happens. My husband was very supportive after the first (I was depressed for two weeks), but for later ones, he feared so much I’d need support that he just pulled away. That’s when I found the website.