Reply To: who goes to whom?

Of course this is all foreign to me, but it seems to be a question of common sense. It would always be nicest if the bocher could go to the girl first and meet her family at the same time. Having said that, there are many other things to take into consideration – their ages, their dating experience and maturity, distances involved, time of year, ticket prices and ability to avail oneself of a seat sale or use of points, etc. It seems that there are no hard and fast rules and each case is individual. Although, I said that this method of dating (traveling for shadchan arranged dates) is foreign to me, I also know people who have travelled to meet each other on dates arranged by family or close friends. Actually, that is how my father met my mother and he travelled across the prairies by train in 1943. They were “set up” by family members. After their first meeting and about 5 dates they became engaged and were married about 5 months later. It was a great success for 45 years, until my father passed away.