aries2756:
“Sender Av, if you tell their parents isn’t that akin to “messirah”? Why does everyone only recognize “messirah” when it involves the other issue? This is also messirah.”
Are you serious? Telling a parent about their kid’s issues is not most definitely not mesirah.
PBA:
I do not think that the parents are at fault in the majority of OTD cases. Every person has bechira, and is free to pick whatever path they want. Just like you would not “blame” (or credit) a baal teshuva’s parent with his/her return, we should not blame an OTD kids’ parents for his/her situation.
Oh and might I point out that two out of three of our Avos had kids who went OTD, and I doubt that any of us can be half as good of a parent (or just about anything else, for that matter) as they were.