You’d be surprised… I *do* ask professionals how much they charge before they start work — including plumbers.
Sure you do – because they don’t tell you otherwise! I think you’re smart for doing so (I’m not surprised), I just don’t think it’s his obligation to tell you.
On the contrary, it makes her look professional.
Some people don’t like that in a shadchan and it’s her prerogative to decide
what does “when the Shidduch is made” mean?
Generally, engagement.
The same applies to “going rate.”
They can determine that themselves.