It’s normal to feel jealous. It’s part of life. What matters is what you do about it. When I went through a period of infertility/miscarriages, I had a very hard time seeing people on the street who had children, let alone a whole group of them. I then asked myself “why am I jealous?” and I realized it’s because I wanted children to love and to guide/teach. I then understood that this is Hash-em’s will and I should be grateful and happy that the children were brought into the world somehow, even if not from me. I said a little kapitle of tehillim for those families that they should grow and be well and be zoche to more. It was very painful for me, but it actually lessened the pain when I Davened for them and looked at myself as being a smaller part of the klall. Pray for your friend that she should be happy (even if you don’t feel it or mean it/it will connect you to her and you will with time feel more joy) and be grateful to Hash-em that He helped her find her zivug so she can grow more and tell Hash-em that you look forward to finding your own. Be’ezras Hash-em, you will be rewarded with a wonderful person whom you will say was worth waiting every minute for. Hatzlachah rabbah!
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