“I’m trying to understand how one goes more out of their way on the internet for bad than on Facebook.”
Are you able to please rephrase that? I don’t really undersatnd what you are trying to understand…
You could look at whoevers pictures you want- I’m not saying you can’t- by all means have your friends or cousins show you them through e-mail or in person. What’s wrong with that? Does it take any longer or is it harder to email it? Definitely not. In high school I used to upload pictures on facebook and it would take a long time, longer then sending a mass email to my cousins with the pictures attached…
obviously it is really hard to never look at pictures and find out about simchas you werent invited to, but it is clear that facebook was established and is used primaraly for gossip- even though bH i am sure nobody on this site uses their facebook intentionally for that purpose- that is what it is for! I know! I’m not making this stuff up. I had one, members of my family have them (immediate and my aunts uncles and cousins), and many of my friends ! (None of whom are bad people and I love them all..)
If you watch videos on Youtube (chas v’shalom 🙂 ), then type in- “so you want to close your facebook account” – pretty good sum up of my feelings (minus the C word he uses..) even goyim realize how fake it is – (just a disclaimer- i also think youtube can be used for good and for bad- and I really try not to go on.. that is what I am working on now… Even though I still use it, I am acknowleging the fact that it is bitul zman and it definitely has an impact on my neshama even though I don’t realize it and i only watch videos rarely.. )
I hope this helps..