I think you need to ask yourself if these things really bother your or not.
Some people let other’s take advantage of them but even though they outwardly offer it inside they really wish the other person would say no.
Other people just don’t seem to mind the hassle whatsoever.
I think if you’re in the first group, then it is better to allow others to take advantage of you but instead work on increasing your happiness in doing chesed in small steps.
If you’re in the latter group than be happy that this particular midah comes naturally to you and focus and the other midos that don’t.