Reply To: Caring about other people needs- Where to draw the line

I’m bringing back this thread for a few reasons. Mainly, because I recently talked about this “problem” with the girl I’m dating, and as soon as I brought it up, she said “Yea, I noticed that.” We came out that it’s something that really isn’t such a big deal, but that I should try to work on it.

Also, I wanted to bring out something I do that’s similar to the topic of this thread, which is saying “I’m sorry.” I’ve realized that I say “I’m sorry” waaaay too much. I say it when there’s really no reason why I should be apologizing. It just naturally comes out of my mouth, and afterwards, I realize that it was not at all my fault, or had nothing to do with me, and there was no reason for me to say it. I talked about this also with the girl, and she actually said it’s not really a problem, because it means that I can easily admit to mistakes and drop arguments quickly, which is a good thing. But actually, I’m concerned about it. Isn’t marriage giving AND taking? It seems like all I would do is give, and feel bad and say sorry for taking anything. Is that healthy? Can a marriage work like that?

I also wanted to thank Aries for your post here, I didn’t see it till now. Very well put.