Joseph: In your zeal to assume that the most fanatical opinion is necessarily correct, you ignore the fact that the other position is also capable of fanaticism in the other direction.
Why are you more machmir on ??? ???? than on ?????? Both are a chiyuv. Why are you willing to insult and hurt singles on the mizbeach of pru urvu?
cherrybim: I’m not sure what I could say to convince you. So all I say is that you should consider the possibility that you are wrong. Assess the risks. Because if you are wrong, and you are seriously hurting people for no reason, that is pretty bad. (Although, most singles I know would simply laugh at you and never take you seriously again. But I’ll still take you seriously- I give people second chances, sometimes it’s just a single mishegas.)