Quote from a previous post: “The point is that a male who has not married is not a completed person; not in learning, not in his avodah and not in his sensitivity to the suffering of others. And there is a selfishness and a “me” orientation with single males.
So no one is doing singles a favor by providing them additional comfort zones, such as: their own minyanim in shuls, special discounts in shul dues, their own thread in the CR, etc. They need to feel that their behavior is not ok and they will only find acceptance when they marry and become mainstreamed into the general frum population.”
What a string of terrible things to say. You don’t know me. You don’t know what my life is like. You don’t know the neglect, lack of attention, and hardships I face constantly. And please know that, even with all that I go through, I am an extremely outgoing, caring, perceptive, and sensitive person. I DREAM of having the opportunity to care for and give to my partner in life. You cannot make assumptions about how much sensitivity a single male has for other people.
You talk about us having our own minyans in shul…I DREAM of just being accepted into the regular minyan in shul as a valued member. I don’t even have that.
And, worst of all, saying that we will “only find acceptance” when we marry and become part of the “general frum population” will only make me want to have less and less of a connection with the general frum population.
Please re-think what you said.