oh i also heard an opinion from someone that:
Ashkanazim usually live far away from their parents,[like in different states] many times and this is common .. when Syrians usually live a block away from their parents and mostly everyone lives in the same 10 block range and u see your extended family ALL the time, every Shabbat and their relationship is very close b”H.
*could be that my parnts did not want my brother to move away to another , or city, which can most likely happen in the Ashkanaz world