Showing her how it hurt wouldn’t change things in the long run. Several men I dated were truly heartbroken when I let the shidduch go. I was very touched, but the issues that bothered me didn’t change so neither could my decision about those shidduchim. I’m sorry for the heartache that you are going through now, but in the long run, whenever the other side says no, it’s a favor to you (you will not look back and say “I let her go”). The only issue that’s worth addressing is whether you feel you were yourself enough (to allow her to make an informed decision). Showing her your sadness is only meaningful if she thought you were callous overall. I doubt her feelings of hesitancy are due to any impression of reluctance on your part (and if so, it’s not too late to set her straight). You sound a bit sad and unfulfilled overall. Women are attracted to men who feel happy and complete in their lives. Try to find a way to make your own life exciting and fulfilling, and you’ll convey that too.
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