For future reference is it normal, as we saw on the “too fast” forum, that boys have a tendency to wear their heart on their sleeve when they “feel it” and girls are much slower to react and to trust their feelings. It just takes girls longer to be sure and to feel safe, even about their own feelings. So sometimes, maybe most times, it is better to hold back and try to keep pace with your date and not run too far ahead of them. Yes the boy should state his feelings first because girls need to hear it first and need to feel safe before they will allow their feelings to be known, but you need to bee somewhere in the same vicinity so you don’t scare off your potential mate.
That might be because the boys actually have more dates and more girls to compare to so that when they do find the “right” one they zoom in on it and feel it faster. Or when a guy is dating for tachlis he doesn’t want to waste time or waste the opportunity when he finds what he is looking for. Or maybe because they feel more safe and secure in the dating process to begin with. Whatever the reason, it is important to stay tuned in, and that is why it is helpful to keep the shadchan in the middle so that you get feedback from the other party whether they are not comfortable telling you directly because they don’t want to rock the boat.