A chareidi yid in chutz laeretz in my opionion is anyone who is a god fearing jew
who cares what color shirt he wears, if he wears an up hat or a down hat, if hes learning full time or working… as long as he is davening with a minyan three times a day and studies torah, hes considered a charadi yid!
A massive problem today is people have a tendency to stereotype others, which only leads to sinas chinam.
There was an article sometime back in the Country Yossi(something like this): ‘Moshiach’ came down and wanted to bring klal yisrael to yerushalayim however he comes down and he goes into a ‘litvish’ shul where they all wear down hats with an up hat, he walks up to a man and the man practicaly ignores him because he said ‘he’s not like him’, then he goes into a ‘chsidish’ shul with a down hat, and there to he’s also ignored because he’s not part of the crowd….
then mashiach realized how bad the ahavas yisrael is in klal yisrael, how we push our brothers away because they are not like us…. as if we are better then them!
then mashiach realized before he can come again and take us home, we need to start loving one another.
Maybe we may dress better then a more ‘modern’ yid however our gaava as if were better because we appear that way, is so much lower!