shlishy -“When someone eats in McDonalds, he is not even pretending to be frum.”
Wrong, he was pretending to be Frum. He might not keep Kosher when he is amongst Goyim esp. after he was arrested, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t put on a show beforehand. The Frum community has a problem believing we have some very bad people amongst us. This is why a lot want to say -“Oh he wasn’t really Frum”. You can say that on anyone who does really bad Aveiros. The problem is we keep failing to realize that we have problems and problematic people. In order to try to work on ourselves -the first thing we have to do is stop the Denial. With being in denial we can’t even begin the Teshuva process!