It seems that any problems or lackings, tend to be attributed to the guys rather then the girls and the fact is, that it is far from so one sided, in real life.
I went out with girls who definately had problems that had nothing to do with me.
One had been abused and so any guy who even so much as closed an eyelash too “hard” was “a violent abuser” as far she was concerned.
Another had decided she was a paskening Rav and could pasken that the worst Loshon Hara she could possibly think of was something she could “pasken” was supposedly ‘not’ Loshon Hara.
She had no sensitivity whatsoever except for her own popularity, which she wanted at all costs, no matter who (including me) she had to hurt in order to have that perception that she was popular and liked by all the shallow types who cared only about agrandazing themselves, at the expense of others.
And still another at the end of the date, started screaming that she did not want to wear chassidish clothes and eat Cholent, even though neither of those things had been brought up by either of us.
She suddenly ran away after vehemently complaining she would not do those things as if I had told her she would be required to do them.