The real traditional Jewish wedding is one where people would put on the best clothes THEY CURRENTLY OWNED and walk out to a field or synagogue with their friends and relations, set up a SIMPLE chuppah, have the ceremony in accordance with the law of Moses, break a glass, provide a little music, food and booze for the guests, and that was it.
The whole WHITE DRESS business, etc., is relatively new, even in the goyish world. Queen Victoria started that whole shtick not even 200 years ago, and it was a tremendous boon for a huge wedding industry.
I have to say that I don’t really have fun at most large weddings. It’s noisy, hard to talk, there’s too much food and the emcee or badchan is just trying to hard to stuff too much entertainment down our throats.
The real pleasure I get at a wedding is from seeing a nice couple get married and chatting with my friends and relations. Everything else is superfluous.