momma, nobody should have to “settle” and particularly not have to settle for mediocrity. That is no way to start a marriage. Perhaps you meant that they should be prepared to live on a smaller income than in the homes they were raised. That is completely different than mediocrity. If one, or both, of the people making up the new couple are mediocre, they, unlike some fine wines, will not improve with age. One, or both of them, will settle for low paying jobs or he may just take up space at a kollel without learning much – after all, he is mediocre and not much is expected of him. Most marriages like this are bound to fail. A couple should have a very long talk about how they see their future together before the engagement is announced.
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